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Kalee Tilli's avatar

I appreciate your words and your truth and I agree. The divide feels insurmountable.

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Elizabeth Pizzinato's avatar

Rebecca, I read this when you first posted it and have wanted to come back to it to read more slowly and thoughtfully. I despair at the blunt edges of the world in which we find ourselves, but I’m enough of a blind optimist to think that surely, somehow, we can build that bridge. What makes it so very hard is holding up the first plank with no one at the other end.

Hugs to you, my friend šŸ’•

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Claudia Byers's avatar

Well written, Rebecca. With our country split and divisive in so many ways, I can't see how much longer it will stand. You know, a house divided against itself cannot stand. In all my years on this earth, I have seen this country get worse over time. I don't believe or trust in a lot of people anymore. Yes, I have friends on both sides of the canyon but we respect each other's opinions without fights. I don't have answers either. But, for me, baking a cake or having ice cream is the answer to everything. Topped off with a good cocktail. And I'll drink to that.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

Cheers, my friend!!!

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Amie McGraham's avatar

I am here for you, with you, rage baking my heart out.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

If there’s a better way to deal with it, I’ve yet to find it.

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Lucie Morin's avatar

Hello Rebecca, I am a Canadian, and have been living in New Zealand for the past 13 years. I do keep up with the news and what is happening around the world. It is a sad state of affairs to say the least. I appreciate your words. Very well written and said.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

Hello Lucie. So nice to meet you. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment for me. It's a sad state of affairs, indeed. On a completely different note, I really hope to visit New Zealand some day! It's very high on my list of places I most want to experience!

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Hank 610's avatar

Thank you.

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Lisa McLean's avatar

I hope your message reaches the people who need it in your country Rebecca.

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Nica Waters's avatar

"And this, my friends, is where I feel our entire country is. Was it always this way and I just didn’t notice? We each live on one side of the canyon or the other and the view is very different there. We don’t speak the same language. The ā€œtruthā€ and the ā€œfactsā€ are in direct opposition. We are taught and presented evidence about how terrible it is over there. We are told, and we do the telling, that ā€œthose peopleā€ are dangerous and evil. We believe that they spew hate. They believe the same about us."

How do we bridge that gap? And are we too late? I fear we are at the same time that I hope we aren't.

Cake and pumpkin seeds, on the other hand, are things we can get behind.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

I am in the same boat, Nica (pun intended). Are we too late? I fear we are and at the same time hope we aren't.

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Sue Haley's avatar

I truly loved reading your comments,Rebecca. I agree with all you’ve said here; for a long time I have believed that religion is the evil spirit of the human existence. But we are all blessed with a sense of spirituality, I believe, that can only come with our love for each other, regardless of religious and political divisions. But sadly, this seems so faraway from us in our very divisive society.

It’s nice to read something on substack that has a touch of healing power instead of comments based on hate- even if I agree with them! Yes to cake, cookies and pies :)

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

Thank you so much for taking the time to write these words, Sue. We may not have any answers but there is a comfort in knowing that we are not alone.

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Linda Naylor's avatar

Excellent, Rebecca.

ā€œI would very much like to live in a world where everyone is free to come to their own conclusions about who they are and how they want to live and that includes gender and sexuality and reproduction.ā€

It’s what everyone should be entitled to.

And, cake.

Please see my Restack.

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Betty Williams's avatar

I love you and respect you my friend, whatever side of the Grand Canyon you want to stand on! šŸ’ž

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

I love and respect you too my friend.

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Tara Dawn's avatar

Rebecca, thank you for your candor with your words of how it is in our nation/world at this time. I relate well to your story, my shift started with the 'Tao of Pooh' and there was no turning back.

In the community of women I work with we are working on building bridges. We are an emerging group of women and girls from all spiritual paths and economic backgrounds. We gather twice weekly for a quick 1/2 hour online check-in, we offer words of gratitude, speak a need, or even pray for self or others in pain and suffering. We then gather monthly in person with a theme to work collectively, we are intergenerational, support where and when can. As a group we volunteer to other non-profits, or to each other to help move project alone. We have been busy since Hurricane Helene last fall. We also host an annual 6-8 week class/training on how to host circles to bring our strengths to more sisters and families.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

This is very encouraging to me Tara. You are doing important, valuable work! Possibly the most important work that can be done in this country right now.

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Giovanna S.'s avatar

I wonder that too, Rebecca. Was it always this way and I just didn’t notice? Is it this way in Italy too? I grew up in a catholic family and I met many of my very good friends at church. But it was never so divisive. Probably some Christians here would say it’s because we weren’t following the teachings ā€œcorrectlyā€ or something. But it just seems like there wasn’t (isn’t) the same level of extremism in Italy that I feel here. Or maybe it’s just how my Italian family and friends are? It’s been a hard week .. a hard few months.. years? Everything feels so political and extreme. Sorry, I think I’m rambling.

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Shell Plant's avatar

Well said Rebecca. My heart goes out to you. I am very frightened by what is happening in the US.

Across the pond too, there is a divide. A divide I struggle to cross. I am part of it I guess. During the last election, the Reform constituent came canvassing and I slammed the door in his face. I have been shocked by the recent rise of outright racism. Was it always there? Do people just feel 'allowed' to say it now?

This is why I hide in my kitchen and make cake and pastry! I do not know the answer either, and I am so tired.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

Same, same, my friend.

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Jenn Sharp's avatar

My mind, my heart (broken) and my hope (gasping for air) agree with you wholeheartedly. To me this division is not based on religion (from the Administrations side) that’s just the tool Trump used to prize his way into the most powerful position on earth. I believe in God, as do many liberals, and we navigate that just fine. This man has turned us all against each other from the perspective of Red or Blue…mutually exclusive. That’s not our reality. Families have people from both sides (and that is fine, normal) but this is no longer Republican or Democrat, Believer or Non…it’s straight up Fascism and I hate to tell my learned friends across the aisle (of whom I used to be years ago) but he rode your YOUR train right into the position. He has now abandoned YOUR principles and OURS and is feeding on the carcasses with glee. (God I got dark there. Sorry guys)

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

I'd like to disagree with you friend, but I can't. What you're saying seems so clear to me and yet there are many, many people in this country who would point their finger at you and say the same. Who still believe that Trump is a champion of freedom. I do not know how to wrap my head around it and I certainly don't know how to form words that would bridge that gap.

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Jenn Sharp's avatar

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Jenn Sharp's avatar

Yes, maybe I was a little excited there, and not clear. I don’t blame the republican…nor the democrat. I believe this man and his agenda have used us all to further his own best interests. He has fanned the flames of partisanship so that we can’t see our SIMILARITIES (which are many) The facts reveal that. But I am also aware that facts are not the basis of much of the discourse, which is the problem of course. I just listened to the Coffee Klatch with Robert Reich & Heather Lofthouse and they do a much better job of explaining this. It is not black & white. Nor Red or Blue. It’s strictly greed and power lust, and we have all been assigned our roles to give the King his top billing.

Thank you for your very thoughtful words Rebecca. We must discuss and recognize what’s going on, even when we want to hide. I appreciate you, my friend.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

I couldn't agree more my friend. I appreciate you!

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Nicki Sizemore's avatar

This resonated so deeply. How do we build that bridge? I have no idea, but it feels like it's getting harder and harder.

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Rebecca Blackwell's avatar

I have no idea either friend. I'm not sure it can be done.

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