I read another beautiful, well written, meaningful post. Death is all around us and can't be avoided. But it's in how we handle it and the grief we go through that determines how well we move forward. Meditation has become more a part of my life as I get older, too. A lot of wisdom and healing has come out of it. I am so glad I have many good memories of my loved ones. Thank you for the positive news about the tragic events in Minnesota. And your beautiful recipes.
Sometimes it's hard to write about what we've lost, to share that pain with others. And although it can be healing for us, I think it's also healing for those who read it. Thank you for sharing your story, and for your beautiful recipes. And thank you for shedding light on the tragic events in Minnesota!
Thank you so much for these kind and encouraging words, Karista. I have received so much comfort and wisdom from others who are willing to share their own stories and insights, and ideas with the world... for all the ways I feel technology might be harmful, this is one of the things I am the most grateful for.
This piece is so beautiful and true. I’ve found when I allow death into my life instead of resisting it, the living part becomes more magnified. Thank you for sharing, Rebecca. ❤️
Such a timely read and so sorry for your recent losses. As my husband and I look at the next few years, we know it will be potentially be filled with losses because, well, our parents are old and it’s inevitable. Something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is being prepared (as best as one can anyway) in a variety of ways just so when it does happen we can ride the wave and not capsize. Lots to think about in this one, Rebecca. Thank you 💗
Thank you for sharing such a raw and honest piece. I am so sorry for your recent loss. In my culture, we often say to the grieving a phrase of comfort… “May their memory be a blessing”. Sending many hugs.
I’ve always loved that phrase. It’s such a beautiful way of expressing the thing I think we all long for… that one day, when we are gone, people will be comforted and warmed by their memories of us. And, may we surround ourselves with the kind of people who, should we ever have to live without them, will warm and comfort us when we think of them. xo
Thank you for sharing your experiences with such openness, Rebecca. I’m very sorry for your losses. When my dad died a few years ago, I also found meditation to be incredibly helpful—to appreciate every breath and to try to quiet my body and mind during a difficult time.
Thank you for such a poignant read. And I'm so sorry for your recent loss Rebecca. I think we are quite reserved when it comes to talking about death in my country, it's often dressed in dark humour. It's how we deal with everything I think. Your addressing the inevitable nature of it head on is quite, well, life affirming to me. I found this whole post life affirming. And as always, your recipes are gorgeous.
Thank you so much, my friend. Steve and our daughters have taught me that dark humor can also be a useful way to deal with death. They call it "gallows humor" and if a stranger heard some of their jokes, I imagine they would be horrified. 😂 But, I've seen how it can be a way to handle with unbearable things. I love that this feels life affirming to you. It's honestly, the best possible response. ❤️
Thank you, Rebecca, once again you have shared your heart with the community. Of the few Substacks subscribe to, I always read yours all the way through. Living with the shadow of grief and allowing space for the less than joyful emotions are the cracks in the darkness that lets the Light in.
Thank you so much Tara. I'm not sure I could express how much it means to me that you want to read what I write here. It's an interesting human desire to want to share your thoughts with others and be understood... I'm not sure why we need to do this, I just know that it's true and your words have made me feel seen and understood. Thank you. "the cracks in the darkness that lets the light in." Yes. So true.
Rebecca, this writing on life and death is so wonderful and so touching. I plan to read it again...a few times as I feel it's the perfect view of how to live and prepare for the inevitability of death. Thank you for sharing such personal information which helps frame your story and gives us all an attitude to strive for.
Kalee, thank you so much for these words. I hope, one day, we can sit in the same room and talk for as long as we want. You're my people. I just know it.
I love olive oil cakes, they're so moist and delicious! How fun to have another one to add to my collection. Thank you.
I agree Mira! Olive oil in cakes is soooo good!
All of this resonates! Thank you.
I read another beautiful, well written, meaningful post. Death is all around us and can't be avoided. But it's in how we handle it and the grief we go through that determines how well we move forward. Meditation has become more a part of my life as I get older, too. A lot of wisdom and healing has come out of it. I am so glad I have many good memories of my loved ones. Thank you for the positive news about the tragic events in Minnesota. And your beautiful recipes.
Sometimes it's hard to write about what we've lost, to share that pain with others. And although it can be healing for us, I think it's also healing for those who read it. Thank you for sharing your story, and for your beautiful recipes. And thank you for shedding light on the tragic events in Minnesota!
Thank you so much for these kind and encouraging words, Karista. I have received so much comfort and wisdom from others who are willing to share their own stories and insights, and ideas with the world... for all the ways I feel technology might be harmful, this is one of the things I am the most grateful for.
What a beautiful post, Rebecca. I'm so sorry for your losses, but I am grateful for you sharing your experience. Big, big hugs.
Thank you Katie.
Thank you for helping to shine the light on what is happening in Minnesota amongst your own personal pain. I appreciate you.
This piece is so beautiful and true. I’ve found when I allow death into my life instead of resisting it, the living part becomes more magnified. Thank you for sharing, Rebecca. ❤️
Such a timely read and so sorry for your recent losses. As my husband and I look at the next few years, we know it will be potentially be filled with losses because, well, our parents are old and it’s inevitable. Something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is being prepared (as best as one can anyway) in a variety of ways just so when it does happen we can ride the wave and not capsize. Lots to think about in this one, Rebecca. Thank you 💗
Thank you for sharing such a raw and honest piece. I am so sorry for your recent loss. In my culture, we often say to the grieving a phrase of comfort… “May their memory be a blessing”. Sending many hugs.
I’ve always loved that phrase. It’s such a beautiful way of expressing the thing I think we all long for… that one day, when we are gone, people will be comforted and warmed by their memories of us. And, may we surround ourselves with the kind of people who, should we ever have to live without them, will warm and comfort us when we think of them. xo
Thank you for sharing your experiences with such openness, Rebecca. I’m very sorry for your losses. When my dad died a few years ago, I also found meditation to be incredibly helpful—to appreciate every breath and to try to quiet my body and mind during a difficult time.
Yes, that’s it exactly Kerry. And thank you so much for your kind words.
Thank you for such a poignant read. And I'm so sorry for your recent loss Rebecca. I think we are quite reserved when it comes to talking about death in my country, it's often dressed in dark humour. It's how we deal with everything I think. Your addressing the inevitable nature of it head on is quite, well, life affirming to me. I found this whole post life affirming. And as always, your recipes are gorgeous.
Thank you so much, my friend. Steve and our daughters have taught me that dark humor can also be a useful way to deal with death. They call it "gallows humor" and if a stranger heard some of their jokes, I imagine they would be horrified. 😂 But, I've seen how it can be a way to handle with unbearable things. I love that this feels life affirming to you. It's honestly, the best possible response. ❤️
Thank you, Rebecca, once again you have shared your heart with the community. Of the few Substacks subscribe to, I always read yours all the way through. Living with the shadow of grief and allowing space for the less than joyful emotions are the cracks in the darkness that lets the Light in.
Thank you so much Tara. I'm not sure I could express how much it means to me that you want to read what I write here. It's an interesting human desire to want to share your thoughts with others and be understood... I'm not sure why we need to do this, I just know that it's true and your words have made me feel seen and understood. Thank you. "the cracks in the darkness that lets the light in." Yes. So true.
Rebecca, this writing on life and death is so wonderful and so touching. I plan to read it again...a few times as I feel it's the perfect view of how to live and prepare for the inevitability of death. Thank you for sharing such personal information which helps frame your story and gives us all an attitude to strive for.
Kalee, thank you so much for these words. I hope, one day, we can sit in the same room and talk for as long as we want. You're my people. I just know it.
I 100% agree. It will happen, I'm sure of it.